Speaking his language
Ever had a man get upset at you for simply asking him a question about how he feels or what he thinks?
Or have you ever had a man barely respond to loving, caring, generous things you do for him? Or even respond negatively?
The way men talk, behave and interpret everything around dating and relationships doesn’t make sense to most women. And it’s pretty often that I hear women call men idiots, say that men are stupid or gripe that men just don’t “get it” when it comes to being with a woman. What’s strange is that guys totally get what’s going on with each other.
For example, a man can watch an interaction between a man and a woman and know a whole lot of specific details about what the man is thinking and feeling from his behavior and what he says. Men know instantly why the guy is responding the way he is and what it means.
Well, remember “guy talk”? It’s that indirect communication that doesn’t even have to involve words that men send out. But guys understand each other PERFECTLY with “guy talk”. Not because they understand something about communication that women don’t. No, it’s because they can identify with other men and relate to what they’re going through.
Have you ever watched a fight your friend had with her boyfriend or husband? Unless your girlfriend was acting completely out of line, then I bet it took just a couple of seconds to understand exactly where your friend was coming from, the “how” and the “why” of her feelings. And it probably took no time at all to see why the boyfriend was upsetting her and the mistakes he was making.
Wouldn’t it be amazingly powerful if you could have the same level of insight and intuition with men?
You can, but you’ve got to spend some time learning “guy talk”. Once you learn more about it, you’ll become more comfortable with the common and predictable signals, reactions, and feelings the man is sending out.