Personality attract men
What would you do if you were trying to catch a guy’s eye?
Would you flirt? How about dressing a bit more seductively? Can you walk right up and talk to him and tell him how you fell? Can you plan for the two of you to end up in a more private situation? Maybe you’re the kind of woman who feels that a guy should approach a woman and make the first move.
It’s interesting because what you would choose to do could have a huge impact on your relationship dynamics in the future, if you end up with this man. And it also says a lot about who you are and what you pay attention to and want in a man.
For example, if you are the kind of woman who will only talk to men who approach you, you might also be the kind of woman who “wants to be wanted” by a man. And while wanting a man’s attention isn’t necessarily bad, it might cause you to behave in needy or controlling ways to get that attention, and to do so even when you’re in a relationship is not a healthy or attractive behavior.
From what I see, women underestimate the
importance of the little things, the small interactions, the body language “cues”, the tone of voice you use, or the smallest bit of attitude that you carry with you. But when you add all these little things together, they add up to your entire behavior and each piece is important to the whole.
So let me ask you…
How many times have you really sat down and thought about these little things you do or don’t do?
Have you ever really listened to your own tone of voice and thought about what it says about you and your attitude to a man when he hears it? I’ve read in several different sources that up to 90% of communication is non-verbal. If that’s true, what is that other unspoken 90% of YOU saying to a man when you talk to him?
If you’re looking to attract men and you haven’t studied the way that humans communicate, it’s only natural to not have a lot of success. Most people get by in life by communicating and getting the things they want by using their natural abilities to communicate.
But these people are the exceptions. Most people aren’t so lucky. If you want to create what you want in your life, then you need to work on your communication. You need to take time and study and learn how to do this.
And let’s say that you did catch a man’s eye and you two starting dating, what if you realized that he wasn’t interested in a relationship, but you were?
It’s a tough situation that lots of women run into because it’s pretty common for some men to be ambivalent about commitment and settling down.
What would you say to him? How would you act? Would you approach him directly about what you wanted or try another approach?
Well, it’s fascinating to think about these things by looking at the differences between men and women. And it also can show you all kinds of secrets about men and what attracts them and gets them interested in “something more” than just dating.
Every man is slightly different. There’s no one magic system to which every woman responds. If what you’re doing doesn’t work, don’t throw out everything, try it a little differently with a different man.
The most successful women I know will tell you that they are only successful because they are able to accept ‘no’ and not take it personally. Again, unsuccessful women take ‘rejection’ as a personal assault on their inner child. Don’t make this mistake.
So start right now. Take a moment and describe the type of man you’d like to attract and write down the qualities that you think will attract him. Then go to work cultivating these qualities.
The idea is to create your own winning combination and then find a place to use it that offers the best chances for success. You want to come across as interesting, unique, original, and desirable.
By the way, if you don’t know what the men who you’re interested in are attracted to, ASK! That’s right, just walk up to them whenever you see one and say, “Can I ask you a question? I’m sure that you’re probably in a relationship right now, but I’d like to ask you something. “What attracts you to a woman, and what do you look for in her?”
Besides it being a fascinating conversation starter, or a funny kind of “pick-up” line if you do it in a wry kind of way, you’ll find that most of the men you pose this question to will be glad to tell you. As a matter of fact, you’ll even find that some will help you in other ways if you ask. They’ll introduce you to other men who might be willing to talk to you about style and what men like, help you choose a hairstyle or what they think would look good on you.
But most women are TERRIFIED of asking, or they feel like a retard because they are asking a man for help. Do yourself a favor. If you are having trouble, get help. Men are amazingly generous and EASILY flattered.