Forcing your feelings on a man
Here’s an emotional death-spiral I’ve watched some women fall into with men…
Some women just don’t look out for, or they just plainly ignore, the signs when a man has extremely low emotional potential. (That he isn’t capable of experiencing much emotional attachment and intimacy.)
Instead, they start by trying to convince a man that he should have the same emotional feelings she does. Women often say that it’s normal to have feelings of emotional involvement, and that it isn’t normal not to feel this way. So when things don’t work this way for a man, they start making excuses for the man’s emotional shortcomings and try to make up for the difference by draining their own emotional resources.
In this situation, a woman is assuming that she can fix a man emotionally, or at least compensate for what he’s lacking with what they have. But at the inevitably unfulfilling end, women are left feeling empty, cheated, and unappreciated.
If you know anything about men, you know that they don’t like to be pushed in any direction when it comes to their emotions. They can be really stubborn. Just talking about emotions is enough with some men, but trying to get them to change is kind of like performing brain surgery with salad forks. You’re just not going to get the job done.
The best thing to do is for a woman to cater her approach with a man to his specific emotional potential… Or decide to not get involved with him in the first place since he’s emotionally inept – a dry well.