Category: Marriage

Focus on specific behaviors to know her

Biologically speaking, males are ideally suited to learning through observation. They are more adept than women at using their left brain to collect logical and linear information, undiluted by emotional input. With less peripheral vision than women,...

Give her a clean state to know her

There’s a joke that runs in therapy circles that goes like this: There are two times when a man doesn’t understand a woman: (1) before marriage, and (2) after arriage. Alas, getting to know your wife may...

First of all – know your wife

Now that you’ve made a decision to put in some hard work on your marriage, how exactly do you go about it? The first thing I recommend, based on my clinical practice, the many letters and...

First of all, know your husband

When Rosa and Lucas stepped into my office for our last session, it was obvious that this was one happy couple. There’s something in the way that happily married people look at each other and treat each...

Men need action!

Caitlin is married to a guy who can’t sit still—but this isn’t a problem for her. “Gosh no,” she says with a wonderfully hearty laugh. “When Derek can’t get rid of his pent-up energy, I can...

Men need to be right and in control

The competitive drive ingrained in males over millennia has pushed them to achieve and triumph. It also is the reason they will fight to win an argument and won’t easily back down if they think they are...

Men need to protect their families

Throughout the history of humankind, males have been assigned the role of protector. Men are generally bigger and stronger than their wives (not always, but usually). They have put their lives on the line to keep their...